Survival tips to live on if your ex or crush is getting married and you are still single
The camera captured Chelsy Davy, Harry’s ex looking beautiful in a navy blue dress and a matching cape at the royal wedding of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle yesterday. She had a beautiful smile on her face and she looked happy for him.
However, during the ceremony, the camera captured her again. This time, her face looked different. She appeared deep in thoughts.
What if you were in her shoes, would you be happy?
What if you heard about it a week before the wedding?
What if it just does not make sense to you?
“How come?”
Your ex is getting married next week…the ex you really love. You even thought you two were going to make up after some months.
Perhaps your crush. The guy or lady you have imagined saying ‘Yes I will’ to plenty times.
You are heartbroken…
You are angry…
You are upset…
You are actually looking forward to seeing your rival and dealing violently with her or him.
Well…
Let us talk. First thing first, you have to calm down or you will end up in jail the rest of your life over a lady or guy who does not deserve you.
You are not the first person in this.
Opal has had two ex’s and she had watched them marry the women of their dreams. Those were the most painful part of her life. Last weekend, one of them got married. She smiled. Just as she was getting over the bad news, she had another bad news. Her crush is getting married this weekend.
“Please who is Bro. kay?” She feigned ignorance.
“Don’t you know him?’ her informant asked her back.
“ Bro. Kay na, our youth pastor. The one that can preach for hours without anyone falling asleep. That dandy fine pastor”. Her informant whispered.
“Oh!” she exclaimed. “I wished them all the best” she smiled and walked away.
So, the ex you loved with all your heart and you wished he/she would come back or the crush you greatly admired with all your heart and you are heartbroken…
Well, here are some things advisable things you do/ survival tips to live on/ things to make you better
1. CRY! And get yourself a big bucket of ice-cream:
You know why, it is not the end of the world. Cry the pain and disappointment out. Scientists say emotional tears contain leucinephalin, an endorphin responsible for reducing pains and improving mood. Natural painkillers!
Plus a bucket of ice cream even makes the tears more interesting. It makes you cool and calm after been honest to yourself. #Tip, ensure its favourite flavour.
2. Hang out with the person who really loves you:
Most times in life, we exhaust ourselves in loving those who do not love us. Those who really love us and would love to start a relationship with us, we treat them like old pairs of shoes.
So call that person up, say something like;
“Hello, I’ve missed seeing your face, wanna hang out?”
Or maybe
“My friend says this movie is blockbuster, I got two tickets, wanna go with me”
Though the person will be suspicious of you, because he really loves you, he will appreciate and accept the offer.
3. Walk up to the bride/groom to be and say…
Don’t dare to pour acid. If you really love that person then you will appreciate and respect his/her choice, partner inclusive. Walk up to them, extend a hand of friendship or give them a hug. Looked at them in the eyes and say
“You’ve gotten yourself one of the best partners on earth, do take care of him with all of you, so someone else won't".
You can tell the “to be” non-private but Impactful memories of you and your ex.
4. Hey! Look at the Mirror;
And say to most beautiful being on earth, “He wasn’t mine, out there in the open world, my prince is. He will come for me soon”. Do not even worry when your time would come. The Holy Bible says “Be anxious for nothing, for in everything, by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your request be made known to God “. Do according to this scripture.
5. Get them a gift:
Yeah! Get them a gift. Not just an ordinary gift. You really profess your love for the person right? Then prove it with value of your gift. You can gift them a household item that cost you half your fortune. It really does matter.
6. Do not go to the wedding but if you must then look your best and you’re your best smile:
Dress beautifully like Chelsy Davy and Cressida Bonas or don’t go for the wedding to avoid throwing tantrums. The bible says that if your right-hand causes you to sin, then cut if off. So if you going to the wedding will cause you to sin, then do not go. If you must go, propose in your heart that you are going there to celebrate with your ‘Old love’ and it all starts with your clothes and smiles.
7. Write a note to your crush/Ex
Write all your feelings and all you have imagined with your ex/Crush. Write down everything….every ‘of the’ thing. Then burn it or throw it into the ocean. Let go.
LIVE ON!!!
So hope this helps?
By Munu OGHENEOCHUKO
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