6 MEAN BUT MEANINGFUL THINGS TO DO A GUY WHO CHEATS ON YOU

    

The pains of been cheated on can be quite suffocating!

XTREMLY painful!!!

You may even wonder what you do not possess that the person possess that got you cheated on in the first instance.

On a beautiful valentine day, Ronke had a beautiful dinner surprise for the guy she loved. As he walked into the room, he was surprised. They have not seen in 6 months so he was not even expecting her

After the hugs and warm greetings, Ronke observed he was not comfortable. 

“Segun, what is wrong?” she asked

After some minutes, he turned his face to hers and bowed his head.

“I am sorry, I cheated on you while you were away”.

That will be Segun third time of cheating on her. She yelled

 at him, pulled his shirt, poured all the food on him and walked away. It was the first time of her reacting to his cheating exploits.

They got back together after one year of series of work on Segun path to prove to Ronke he was not ready to lose her over another lady that is nothing close to being compared to her.

We have this to say:

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Do not ever be nice to a guy who cheats on you. DO NOT!!! We do not care how much you love him, how much you have invested in the relationship, how it was your fault or how much the girl tempted him. He had a choice and he made a choice to cheat on you, so why are you still nice to him? How will he know he committed an abomination? How will he know there are some things you cannot do to a lady and walk away as if nothing ever happened? DO NOT BE NICE TO HIM AT ALL, be it the  first time, second time, third time or even the 100^th time he is cheating.

Celebrities will go on the internet, TV and radio stations and even their social media pages to rant about how their husbands were cheating on them before marriage but yet endured.

Now they are married, he still have not changed and they want a divorce. Why did they not divorce when dating?  They brought it upon themselves. They failed to deal with the foundation before it became an insurmountable mountain.

Surprisingly, the youths are following their footsteps.

Until you are married, you are not into any covenant with any man. Leave while you can or deal with it if you can.

Once you confirm he is cheating or he had cheated on you, deal with him meaningfully but be mean about it.

Below are the things you can do for a while:

1.    BLOCK HIS NUMBER AND BLOCK HIM ON ALL SOCIAL NETWORKS:

If he could block his senses and every atom of respect for you in the bosom of another woman, then block him from your life. Do not be foolish! Block him from all aspects of your life. Once you start hearing his voice, seeing those messages and his faces and pictures. There is a great chance of getting back together immediately and having him cheat on you again.  You did not give enough time to make him realize that what he did was wrong.

2.    REPORT HIM TO SOMEONE HE RESPECTS SO MUCH:

Especially if the person is aware that you two were in a serious

Relationship, someone that he listens to and obey. It could be his pastor, his parents or his best friend. Report him. Do not be ashamed on his behalf. Let them be aware that he is not different from a man who cannot hold himself. A cheat is a cheat even if he is your boyfriend. Do not call it another name or try to sugarcoat the cheating.

3.    SHOW HIM PEPPER PUBLICLY:

Do not even try to be nice to him in public especially if he comes begging. If you two work in the same office, say your normal greetings and walk away. If he always wants to push the greetings further, you’ll let the whole office know he is a cheat. Throw all gifts back at him. Rejects his offers. Just show him some “ata rodo” publicly.

4.    DESTROY HIS PICTURES:

Get a big sharp scissors, get all his picture, and redesign them without the features that make him handsome. Put them in a new envelope and send it to him. “This is how cheating makes you look” put that on the envelope.

5.    BE A BETTER YOU AND HANG OUT WITH YOUR GIRLFRIENDS M0RE:

Improve on your communication skills, read more books, go to the gym, have a better figure, change your wardrobe, learn new make ups, etc. You’ll be glad you did. Do not hang out with other guys so you do not feel pressured into having sex with them. Having sex with another person or even your boyfriend’s friend is not revenge. It is more like you have two expensive gold that cost a fortune, you lost one to someone you love and now instead of investing the other, you want to give it out too. Is that wisdom? For the fact, he cheated on you does not mean you should cheat on yourself.

6.    CALL A MUTUAL FRIEND THAT IS OBLIVIOUS OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP:

Tell him or her to tell your friend to stop disturbing you. Explain to them that you are working on very big project and you will not need any distraction from “so and so”. 

Finally, I repeat, do not act nice to the guy who cheats on you. Do not even think of trying to console him if he loses someone close to him, do not buy him perfumes or sneakers, or send him birthday or Val gifts. Do not even bother attacking the person he cheated on with you.

Lastly, forgive and let go of the hurt!!! If you feel he has changed or he is remorseful, then you get back together. It is better to have a broken relationship than a broken marriage. Divorce is not an option, but leaving now is.

Well, you two are not married so you are not under any vow to remain in the relationship till death do you path. So flee from all cheating boyfriends.

This applies to the opposite sex as well.

 BY MUNU OGHENEOCHUKO AND ADERONKE