Justice For Sylvester : Some Things Some Boarders Would Rather Not Say

When the news of the painful exist of Sylvester Oromoni , a 12 year old boarding secondary school pupil of Dowen College, beaten mercilessly and poisoned by some seniors which eventually led to his demises, hit the internet and spread like wild fire, it made us all aware that the case of bullying is a serious and collective matter that needed to be stopped.

Sylvester in pains before he passed on

I am sure some parents that has children in boarding schools were shocked. However busy they were, I am glad the news got to them and it is still getting to them. Finally it has become obvious to them what their children are not oblivious about.

Cute Sylvester set to soar high but bullies killed him

At this point in time, I encourage the parents and fellow students of Dowen college to speak up, call out names, do whatever you can to help get justice for Sylvester.

For some people, it is important for us to understand that there are some things some people especially boarders won’t say or tell you. They will not because they are either scared or they do not want to appear vulnerable. As one who graduated from a boarding school and spend at least one day a week with children , interacting and teaching them, here are are some things I know they would or might never tell you,

1. Bullying is a circle;

I remember then in boarding school , everyone anticipated been a senior so they would do back to their juniors what their seniors did to them. Ha! it was really bad. The excitement in our promotions did not lie in the fact that we passed all our exams, it lied in the fact that were higher on the ladder to avoid been bullied and becoming a bully. The painful thing about it, is that, the juniors who becomes seniors tends to be more 10 times wicked than those who initiated them

2. It starts from the home;

If there was one wicked senior that I can never forget in a hurry was Senior DD (not real name), I neither a junior to be easily bullied nor did I have fear for anyone but this particular senior, I was so scared of her. She would punish juniors so much so till you could see blood running from junior eyes. She would also send them to fetch water and even eat their provisions. She was really beautiful on the outside but she was a beast within. One day, she beat the child of a very influential parent and she was flogged and expelled at the general assembly . She was among the very set of people in my entire 5 years as a boarder in my school to be expelled. At the end of the day, we found out she was from an orphanage home where she was also treated daily in such manner. A scholarship to a good school ( my school) did not change her one bit. There was another wicked senior too only that she never got expelled but whenever she came visiting after graduation, rather than welcome her, we would be screaming wicked senior from our room windows,

3. If you don’t encourage them to talk, they would not tell you;

A teacher reports your child to you (as a parent), the first thing you do, is to start screaming and beating the child without verifying if the information is true or not. That type of child would never come back home and tell you what is happening in school or if you an ever busy parents, no way, you would never know. You are too busy to either listen or pay attention to changes in your child(ren)The good thing at my end about been a boarder that year was that I was earlier a day student that was know for being stubborn. I would not cross anyone’s path but if any dared cross mine, it was going to be a war. So I was lucky to escape been bullied when I became a boarder because some seniors respected themselves when it came to my matter.

4. School management does not help matters,

Beat a poor man’s child, rape a poor man’s child, bully a poor man’s child, do whatever you want to the average man’s child and some schools would take it averagely. So there is always a class systems when school management considers disciplining students. They do not say it, they show it. So the best you can do is to tip teachers and do whatever you can to help your child.

5. Boarding school is not the solution to your child’s problem

most times. So you as a parent first have a lot to do as regards bringing your child rightly. While I may not be not be the right person to tell you this or tell you how to train your child, but then , I know you have got to try. I understand you are busy and it is perfectly okay to work all your ass off to give them the best. How ever, I know you love them too much to lose them .

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I am ever grateful for attending a boarding school without bullying anyone and without any senior bullying me. I possibly attended one of the best boarding school at that time. But you see those ones that bullied others in school, rape students, though young people homosexuality in dark places and still forming agama lizards and shouting ‘justice for Sylvester’, first need to be served their ‘breakfast’. This circle must end. Wickedness is not a show of strength. Bullying, beating your younger ones unfairly and threatening them while you deprive of what they really deserve is wickedness. Also, note no where is entirely safe for a child. For the ones that are quick to condemn those who send their children to boarding schools, I hope you can confirm and verify that your own child is not being bullied at home and sexually assaulted by people you pay salary monthly.

#justiceforslyvester

#Saynotobullying

#raisekidsnotdemons

#teachchildrenrightly

#prayforthisyounggenenrations

#poweragainstpower.