What We Wanted Versus What We Got

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Welcome to the very first interview of  'What We wanted versus what We got'. I pray you will  be  tremendously blessed after reading our first couple share  their experience from singlehood to meeting their each other. 

To my writing Mentor, Ayomide Ekerin, thank you for coming through for all the interviews. 

WHAT WE WANTED VERSUS WHAT WE GOT

EPISODE 1

COUPLES: Mr. and Mrs Otu

 

Hello everyone, welcome to the very first episode and the very first interview of what we wanted versus what we got; A relationship interview centred on Christian couples, focused on the discovery journey of their spouse, with the aim to help singles discover theirs in the Godly way.

‘Friend zoned turned marriage zone’

 

Who knows what zone God is bringing your future spouse from? In this interview with Mr. and Mrs. Moses Otu, they both shared their story from been just friends from a program in Unilag to becoming life partners. Read, digest and learn.

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SARAH: Good evening Mr. and Mrs. Moses Otu. Thank you so much for honouring our invite.

MR AND MRS. OTU:  You are welcome

SARAH: It is a beauty beholding you two from two different tribes in Nigeria in one union. Mr. Moses, tell us, were you in search for a Yoruba wife?

Mr. Moses: Man: (Coughs and laughs hard, his wife joins in the Laughter). No O! I was never in search of a Yoruba lady. Before now, did I have any issues with tribal things like where to marry and where not to marry, the answer is yes. I had some places I actually made my own reasons I was not going to settle down with them, personal reasons though. Especially Yoruba ladies. I never wanted to settle down with a Yoruba lady to be honest but I just thank God I settled down with my wife although it was not easy to accept initially knowing that she is Yoruba lady but we are happy together yesteryears, today and forever.

SARAH: How about you Mrs. Otu, what were you specs for your future husband before you met your charming Prince from South- South?

MRS. Otu: (Blushes and exchanges some shy glances with her husband). I had no issue with who to marry in terms of tribes. Been a Yoruba lady I am a very free person,  I like  every tribe. Everybody knows Yoruba people to be very free people, so I was a free person and I still am. I  like people from all the tribes in Nigeria.  My only preferences were that as far as I was led by the Spirit and the person was a believer, I had no issues.

SARAH: Hmm… so Mr Otu, how did the journey from not wanting to marry a Yoruba lady to dating, courting and marrying one began?

MR. Otu: I met my wife in 2014 when I went to Unilag for a shell program where she also came for the same program. We both came from different centres. I remember that day I told her that day that I was not going to ask her out.

Sarah: WOW!  So you kinda friend-zoned your wife on your very first day meeting her. I have always read that it is mostly ladies that friend zoned guys. This is newwwwwwwwwwwws! Mrs . Otu, How did you feel about been friend zoned instantly?

MRS. Otu: I felt okay. I felt comfortable, I was not even interested in dating him when I saw him.

SARAH: Are you sure? Did feel like you did not dress good enough or looked hot for him to ask you out ma?

Mrs. Out: Never! I never felt that way.

SARAH: Mr. Otu, after friend zoning, at what point did you decide to date zone and marrY zone the queen of your heart?

MR. Otu: One week after. (Sarah opens mouth). I know you are shocked, but let me tell you more.  I did not even ask her to date me or go on a date with me.  I told her my partner said she would be my wife and I asked her to marry me.

Sarah: Mr Moses, who is your partner and how did he tell you?

MR. Otu: The Holy Spirit

SARAH: Mrs Otu, so what were your reactions after been friend zoned and him coming back one week to ask you to marry him?

Mrs. Otu:  It was funny. I told him, I thought you said you were not going to ask me out but he told that his partner said I was going to his wife.   I prayed about it. Some weeks later  happened to be my birthday so I told him that if the holy Spirit was really his partner and told him that I am his wife, the holy Spirit should tell him my favourite colour and since he was going to get me a cake, the cake should be that colour. There were other confirmations too from God that he was the one.

SARAH: hmm… and he did had the right colour?

Mr . Otu:  Yes o, my partner did not disappoint. That was how we started anyways. I got to know her house, her parents and that was how started.

SARAH; I know your reasons for not wanting to marry a Yoruba lady are personal but can you please share some of them so we single and young people can look beyond them or something similar to them, so when the Lord is leading us to where or whom to marry, we would look beyond them.

Mr. Otu: Part of the reasons why I never wanted a Yoruba lady was, I had this mentality , first of all, them giving very polite insults, they are very rude and not been able to cook and I like food and I also see them to be party party person. Secondly ehmm…

Mrs. Otu: (Chips in and helps him complete it) most of them are very dirty (Both of them laugh)

Mr. Otu: So I concluded within me that I would never have anything to do with a Yoruba lady much more thinking of settling down with them

 

SARAH; So how has it been with who thought you wanted and what you have now?

Mr Otu: Beautiful o, I no go lie. My wife  is an amazing cook. She actually changed my mindset about eating that I find it hard eating outside when I go for events. Talking about food, I love food, she knows, especially prepared by my wife.  What really amazed me about her cooking was how she found her way out to getting how to cooking my kind of food, native food from Cross River like she went edikikan Ikong, Eferifere, afang  and 

all those things. She goes as far learning it online and even without my guidance and she does them well. And talking about their food,  I eat amala very welllllllll as a matter of fact, I even prefer it even  to eba . I don’t eat much of swallow, just give me amala…oh mine (smiles). I didn’t like semo before too but since I met my wife, I began to eat semo. I did like it because of  because of all those dots, dots, dots,  but my wife prepared semo for me for the first time and I was like this one was different, I did not  know it was semo until I asked her, then pounded yam, then…forget my wife is a good cook.  I have no issue as regards food, I can also tell you She is a home-maker, very supportive in my business and my welfare. My dressing, my weight and many things have changed. My spiritual life and many things have changed

SARAH: That is so nice; we see the evidence of your testimonies all over you sir. Thank you so much for coming, before you go, any word of wisdom for those searching and waiting to be found?

MRs. Otu: watch, pray and follow.

Mr. Otu: With the help of God, he would always bring someone to complement your weaknesses (Looks at his wife)

MRs. Otu: Yeah that is true.

Mr. Otu: And then I met her when I had nothing, and God has been faithful. We doing great  and hmmm…my spiritual life ,personal life  and even my dressing have changed. She made things happen. It is been wonderful meeting my wife. Thank you. I hope I have answered all your questions? (Smiles)

Sarah: Yes sir , yes ma. Thank you for this .