THINGS MEN WANT AT EVERY RELATIONSHIP STAGE

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When you know the needs or wants of a man, you can be able to please him better and make him happier.
One myopic view ,we , ladies have about a relationship is that they think a man’s greatest need is SEX.
Sorry to burst your bubbles, a man greatest need in any relationship is not sex. If it was, any man can easily go to places like “Empire” or “Allen Avenue” or “White House” etc. and start a great relationship with ladies there.
But most men do not. Some just have sex, pay and leave. End of story!
So here are his needs at every stage of a relationship:
1. PRE-DATING STAGE
 At this stage, all a man need is your “Chase” and “IQ”. He wants you to show him the stuffs you are made of. He wants you to give him the chance of sweeping you off your feet. He does not want sex. Even if he tells you, pressure you into it, he is a liar. Make him wait. Make him chase you. Make him use his brain to be creative. Do not just say yes, make him chase you well.
2. DATING STAGE:
At this stage, a man still does not need sex. If you have trust issue on this, ask a man you know is honest. He may ask you for it, yet does not need it. He wants to know if you were really smart at the pre-dating stage or just forming it. He wants an intelligent conversation with you, he wants to test your management skills and your lovy dovy skills. He wants to know if you are that lady that fixes her brain before her nails and hair. He wants a real girlfriend, someone he can gladly introduce to his friends and family. He needs your ‘RESPECT!’.
3. THAT STAGE LEADING TO MARRIAGE:
He needs respect, friendship, and love. He wants to be sure that his lady will not be contending with him or fighting with his family when he is married. He wants to know if he can really be her head.
4. MARRIAGE:
He needs you to submit to him so he can be the provider he was created to be. He does not want a fellow man in his house. He wants to defend you and the children. He needs you to support him. He needs “SEX!!!!” RESPECT, SUPPORT, GOOD FOOD, A GOOD HOME, CHILDREN and many more.
A man's greatest need in any relationship is not “SEX” but “RESPECT” as we have clearly seen from the various stages.









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